What Not To Do In A Divorce

There are steps you can take to protect your rights and your assets before and during a divorce. However, people often let their emotions get the better of them, and they make mistakes that can jeopardize the successful outcome of their case.

At Cole Law Group our attorneys will guide you through every aspect of the divorce process to help you achieve a resolution that protects your rights, your relationship with your children, and your assets. We never adhere to a one-size-fits-all strategy, but the following are specific rules of behavior that you should abide by as you partner with us:

1. Do Not Hide Assets From Your Attorney Or Your Spouse

Business owners, professionals, celebrities, or other high-asset individuals sometimes feel that they need to stash money in hidden accounts to keep it out of the divorce. Our lawyers are cognizant of the importance of financial discovery, and we know what happens when those assets are brought to light. Be sure to provide an honest accounting of all your assets and let us determine what is a marital and what is a non- marital asset. Courts in Tennessee do not look favorably upon hidden assets.

2. Do Not Fight Over Things You Do Not Want Just To Fight

When divorces turn bitter, spouses will say and do things out of spite. If you do not want the house, don't put up a fight for it. Instead, work with your lawyer to come up with a fair resolution. On the other hand, if you feel the long-term stability of a business you own is at stake, you may want to consider going to trial.

3. Do Not Try To Pit Your Children Against Your Ex

Bad-mouthing your ex in front of the children, lying about your ex to the children, appearing vindictive toward your spouse in court, or other similar destructive behavior will earn you no goodwill from the judge. Even if your soon-to-be ex is a bad parent, make an honest attempt to work through issues. Courts in Tennessee believe strongly that children benefit from maintaining a strong relationship with both parents, and they will not look upon you favorably if you try to poison that relationship. On the other hand, if your children's safety is at stake, it is imperative that their welfare be considered.

4. Do Not Disobey Court Orders

The judge may issue temporary orders regarding custody and child support while the divorce works its way through the legal system. No matter how disappointed or angry you are, you must comply with the judge's orders. Failure to do so could result in a contempt of court ruling against you that would have negative consequences.

5. Do Not Dismiss Mediation Or Other Means Of Resolution

Many couples, even those who seem destined to spend months in court, have found effective resolutions through the mediation process. Collaborative measures can help bridge gaps and reveal areas of agreement that you had not previously considered.

To learn more about how to avoid divorce missteps, we invite you to schedule a consultation today at our office in Brentwood, Tennessee. We serve clients throughout the Nashville area. Contact us online or call us at 615-490-6020.